You Are Enough

I originally wrote this for my cousin after I bought her a ring for Xmas that said “you are enough” and she asked me what it meant. As I was writing it (second half in comments), I felt part of my inner 7th grader healing too, so I thought it was worth sharing. (“Coincidentally, my Mom asked me to go through a box of my old stuff and I found these two pics of me in 7th grade.)

My Love,

You are enough.

No matter what you do, say ,wear, or weigh,
you will always be enough.

You are beautiful, magical, perfect, and whole,
exactly as you are. 

You are always deserving of the highest Love. 

When you make a mistake,
you are enough.

When you fail, 
you are enough.

When you shoot your shot and miss,
you are enough.

When you get a bad grade, 
you are enough.

When the boy you like says he doesn’t feel the same,
you are enough.

When your parents get mad at you, 
you are enough. 

People will try to tell you what to do, who to be, and what to think.
Listen and adhere only to what feels true in your heart.

Be you,
because you are enough. 

Commercials, billboards, and Instagram advertisements will try to tell you how to look, what to weigh, and what you need for happiness.  
Don’t listen.
Those people in those ads are photoshopped.  
They miss the beauty in the lines we’ve lived.
Be you, 
because you are enough.

(Btw, the “Koko” side of your family was sold a story that being thin correlated with a woman’s worth.  This is a lie. Your worth is not in any way related to any number. All that matters is how you feel inside.)

Your inherent worth can never, ever, be taken away from you.
No matter what. 
You are never bad. Only good.

As spirits living a human life, 
we just make mistakes (miss the mark) sometimes.
What is more important is that we learn, grow, and evolve.
And don’t despair if it takes several times to learn the lesson.
We’ve all been there.

Not only are you always enough,
you are always loved.

Some people will treat you badly. 
But it is not, it is NEVER, your fault.
They don’t see your divinity, 
and have forgotten theirs.
Set a boundary.  
Love yourself. 

At times, people will get mad and yell.
It’s not because you are bad.
They just don’t know how to process their emotions,
and have learned to control others out of fear.
Many adults just have wounds that they still need to heal.
It is up to them to heal them, not yours.
Your job is to be you. 

As a 7th grader, you may have already had to untangle who you are at your heart versus who you’ve become to fit in and please others.
If you can do that now, 
it will save you a lot of pain as an adult. 

Sometimes being yourself can feel scary, but remember,
you are enough.
Some may criticize you and call you weird.
Don’t worry about them.

Most people who are caged (afraid to be themself)
are jealous of those who are free (act from their true self).

By the way, did you know that weird actually means 
“one who walks the path of fate”?
Walk the path of your destiny, my love.

Your voice deserves to be heard.
Your emotions deserve to be felt and soothed.
You deserve to be seen.
It all matters, 
because you matter. 

You, my Love, 
are enough,
exactly as you are. 

The things we think matter- 
grades, athletic skills, looks-
don’t actually matter. 

What matters is how you feel.
What matters is how you make others feel.
What matters is being kind.
What matters is that you know how to give love and receive love.

What matters is you being you,
because, my Love, you are enough. 

I love you.

Ray (& Pacer)