The mind often likes to try and figure everything out, but really it’s a way to keep us stuck. To the lower mind, having an explanation will appear to give us safety, but this is a false theory.
It’s often better for us to recognize our own emotions and belief systems around the event, feel what we need to feel, and let it go.
For instance, after a breakup with someone we believed to “be the one”, our mind will try to create stories on why it didn’t work. Sometimes we blame it on ourselves, sometimes we blame it on them. We think we’ll feel better if we just had closure. We try to speak to the person and are denied, or we get the same confusing answers and no closure is given. Our mind continues to problem solve, keeps looping in its limited perspective, and we stay in grief, anger, and fear.
This is obviously not helpful. It’s better to simply know that the person, especially at a soul level, does love you, but they were/are stuck in their own wounds, stories, and fears, just as you were at the time, and hence why you were attracted to one another. Now, you get to empathize with your own emotions, uncover your own limiting stories, and let them go. And maybe to, you understand that this was all part of a Divine Plan to bring you back into clarity of your true self and deeper forms of love than what is often seen at the human level.
You can set yourself free.
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