(I originally wrote this for my psych-soul counseling Insta page @wanderlustcounseling, but thought it was worth sharing here too.)
Can you love the unlovable?
Can you love the innocent, vulnerable, emotional, and soft part of you that doesn’t want to do hard things, that just wants to feel safe and loved? Can you love your inner child?
Can you love the part of you that oppresses your creativity and joy? Your inner critic, you mean coach, your Judgy McJuderson. Can you love your abuser?
For some of us, it will be harder to love the inner child, because we have deemed her weak. Or rather, the inner abuser has deemed her weak. We’ve learned that it’s better to be strong and tough in a “hard knock life” kind of world. But is it? Or is that the world we created from beliefs and stories of fear handed down to us, that creates comparison, hate, and war. That is the belief of the inner abuser (yes, I am using this word intentionally). The inner abuser lives… feeds off of fear, believing the world is not safe and that he’s gotta look out for himself. She doesnt just protect, she is protected…but not from anything bad, from everything good. That part of us that shames us, that’s literally tried to obliterate the inner child inside of us…he’s just scared. He hides behind his defenses. And yea, she’s done some things he’s not proud of. Can you forgive him? Knowing that he’s only abused, harmed, and killed out of fear? Can you see the scared child underneath the armor? The part of you that just wants to know he’s still loveable. Can you love the unlovable?
*Did you know that Hitler actually wanted to be an artist. Something churns in my stomach when I read his biography: https://www.history.com/news/adolf-hitler-artist-paintings-vienna
**I used he/her for simplicity’s sake, partially having to do with energies, but please use the pronouns you see fit.
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